can muslim man and christian woman get married? or christian woman should become muslim?
A lot of that depends on your husband to be. Have you discussed this with him.
The muslim faith is very much about keeping marriage unified, and that includes religious beliefs. A muslim man is expected to marry a virtuous muslim woman.
The Quran states :
This day are (all) good things made lawful for you. The food of those who have received the Scripture is lawful for you, and your food is lawful for them. And so are the virtuous women of the believers and the virtuous women of those who have received the Scripture before you (lawful for you) when you give them their marriage portions and live with them in honor, not in fornication, nor taking them as secret concubines. Whoso denies the faith, his work is vain and he will be among the losers in the Hereafter. [Qur'an: Al-Ma'idah (5:5)].
Muslim and Chirstian faiths are not as different as people would like to believe. There are factions of muslims that have doctrines that traditional muslim beliefs do not follow.
Ultimately, the answer is going to depend on how closely either of you follow your beliefs. Since they are not the same, neither of you will understand the others, and therefore that will be an aspect of your life that you can not share.
If that does not bother you, and it does not bother him, then I wouldn't worry about it. If it does, you will need to come to a comprimise BEFORE you get into marriage.
Jul 26, 2009
Jul 23, 2009
Russia and Ukraine supply women
Centered in Moscow and the Ukrainian capital, Kiev, the networks trafficking women run east to Japan and Thailand, where thousands of young Slavic women now work against their will as prostitutes, and west to the Adriatic Coast and beyond. The routes are controlled by Russian crime gangs based in Moscow. Even when they do not specifically move the women overseas, they provide security, logistical support, liaison with brothel owners in many countries and, usually, false documents.
Women often start their hellish journey by choice. Seeking a better life, they are lured by local advertisements for good jobs in foreign countries at wages they could never imagine at home.
In Ukraine alone, the number of women who leave is staggering. As many as 400,000 women under 30 have gone in the past decade, according to their country's interior ministry. The Thai Embassy in Moscow, which processes visa applications from Russia and Ukraine, says it receives nearly 1,000 visa applications a day, most of these from women.
Israel is a fairly typical destination. Prostitution is not illegal here, although brothels are, and with 250,000 foreign male workers -- most of whom are single or here without their wives -- the demand is great. Police officials estimate that there are 25,000 paid sexual transactions every day. Brothels are ubiquitous.
None of the women seem to realize the risks they run until it is too late. Once they cross the border their passports will be confiscated, their freedoms curtailed and what little money they have taken from them at once.
"You want to tell these kids that if something seems too good to be true it usually is," said Lyudmilla Biryuk, a Ukrainian psychologist who has counseled women who have escaped or been released from bondage. "But you can't imagine what fear and real ignorance can do to a person."
The women are smuggled by car, bus, boat and plane. Handed off in the dead of night, many are told they will pick oranges, work as dancers or as waitresses. Others have decided to try their luck at prostitution, usually for what they assume will be a few lucrative months. They have no idea of the violence that awaits them.
The efficient, economically brutal routine -- whether here in Israel, or in one of a dozen other countries -- rarely varies. Women are held in apartments, bars and makeshift brothels; there they service, by their own count, as many as 15 clients a day. Often they sleep in shifts, four to a bed. The best that most hope for is to be deported after the police finally catch up with their captors.
Few ever testify. Those who do risk death. Last year in Istanbul, Turkey, according to Ukrainian police investigators, two women were thrown to their deaths from a balcony while six of their Russian friends watched.
In Serbia, also last year, said a young Ukrainian woman who escaped in October, a woman who refused to work as a prostitute was beheaded in public.
In Milan, Italy, a week before Christmas, the police broke up a ring that was holding auctions in which women abducted from the countries of the former Soviet Union were put on blocks, partially naked, and sold at an average price of just under $1,000.
"This is happening wherever you look now," said Michael Platzer, the Vienna, Austria-based head of operations for the U.N.'s Center for International Crime Prevention. "The Mafia is not stupid. There is less law enforcement since the Soviet Union fell apart and more freedom of movement. The earnings are incredible. The overhead is low -- you don't have to buy cars and guns. Drugs you sell once and they are gone. Women can earn money for a long time."
"Also," he added, "the laws help the gangsters. Prostitution is semilegal in many places and that makes enforcement tricky. In most cases punishment is very light."
In some countries, Israel among them, there is not even a specific law against the sale of human beings.
Platzer said that although certainly "tens of thousands" of women were sold into prostitution each year, he was uncomfortable with statistics since nobody involved has any reason to tell the truth.
"But if you want to use numbers," he said, "think about this. Two hundred million people are victims of contemporary forms of slavery. Most aren't prostitutes, of course, but children in sweatshops, domestic workers, migrants. During four centuries, 12 million people were believed to be involved in the slave trade between Africa and the New World. The 200 million -- and many of course are women who are trafficked for sex -- is a current figure. It's happening now. Today."
Women often start their hellish journey by choice. Seeking a better life, they are lured by local advertisements for good jobs in foreign countries at wages they could never imagine at home.
In Ukraine alone, the number of women who leave is staggering. As many as 400,000 women under 30 have gone in the past decade, according to their country's interior ministry. The Thai Embassy in Moscow, which processes visa applications from Russia and Ukraine, says it receives nearly 1,000 visa applications a day, most of these from women.
Israel is a fairly typical destination. Prostitution is not illegal here, although brothels are, and with 250,000 foreign male workers -- most of whom are single or here without their wives -- the demand is great. Police officials estimate that there are 25,000 paid sexual transactions every day. Brothels are ubiquitous.
None of the women seem to realize the risks they run until it is too late. Once they cross the border their passports will be confiscated, their freedoms curtailed and what little money they have taken from them at once.
"You want to tell these kids that if something seems too good to be true it usually is," said Lyudmilla Biryuk, a Ukrainian psychologist who has counseled women who have escaped or been released from bondage. "But you can't imagine what fear and real ignorance can do to a person."
The women are smuggled by car, bus, boat and plane. Handed off in the dead of night, many are told they will pick oranges, work as dancers or as waitresses. Others have decided to try their luck at prostitution, usually for what they assume will be a few lucrative months. They have no idea of the violence that awaits them.
The efficient, economically brutal routine -- whether here in Israel, or in one of a dozen other countries -- rarely varies. Women are held in apartments, bars and makeshift brothels; there they service, by their own count, as many as 15 clients a day. Often they sleep in shifts, four to a bed. The best that most hope for is to be deported after the police finally catch up with their captors.
Few ever testify. Those who do risk death. Last year in Istanbul, Turkey, according to Ukrainian police investigators, two women were thrown to their deaths from a balcony while six of their Russian friends watched.
In Serbia, also last year, said a young Ukrainian woman who escaped in October, a woman who refused to work as a prostitute was beheaded in public.
In Milan, Italy, a week before Christmas, the police broke up a ring that was holding auctions in which women abducted from the countries of the former Soviet Union were put on blocks, partially naked, and sold at an average price of just under $1,000.
"This is happening wherever you look now," said Michael Platzer, the Vienna, Austria-based head of operations for the U.N.'s Center for International Crime Prevention. "The Mafia is not stupid. There is less law enforcement since the Soviet Union fell apart and more freedom of movement. The earnings are incredible. The overhead is low -- you don't have to buy cars and guns. Drugs you sell once and they are gone. Women can earn money for a long time."
"Also," he added, "the laws help the gangsters. Prostitution is semilegal in many places and that makes enforcement tricky. In most cases punishment is very light."
In some countries, Israel among them, there is not even a specific law against the sale of human beings.
Platzer said that although certainly "tens of thousands" of women were sold into prostitution each year, he was uncomfortable with statistics since nobody involved has any reason to tell the truth.
"But if you want to use numbers," he said, "think about this. Two hundred million people are victims of contemporary forms of slavery. Most aren't prostitutes, of course, but children in sweatshops, domestic workers, migrants. During four centuries, 12 million people were believed to be involved in the slave trade between Africa and the New World. The 200 million -- and many of course are women who are trafficked for sex -- is a current figure. It's happening now. Today."
Jul 16, 2009
Angry Russian women
Don't piss off Russian women
A Russian woman got so upset by the news that her boyfriend intended to leave her that she tied several firecrackers to his penis and exploded them, the Life.ru web-site reports.
The 33-year-old victim, identified as Alik D. had lived with the woman whose name was reported as Kira V. for about two years, but when the girlfriend started suggesting that they should marry, the man refused and said that he would rather return to his first wife with whom he had a son.
A Russian woman got so upset by the news that her boyfriend intended to leave her that she tied several firecrackers to his penis and exploded them, the Life.ru web-site reports.
The 33-year-old victim, identified as Alik D. had lived with the woman whose name was reported as Kira V. for about two years, but when the girlfriend started suggesting that they should marry, the man refused and said that he would rather return to his first wife with whom he had a son.
Jul 14, 2009
FSU was not on my mind
I’ve never thought my wife could be from somewhere outside of both Americas, it just never came to my mind. I am originally from Mexico, and as usually, first I was thinking about my education, later about my career and then my work made me to spend all the time on it. All the time I was traveling around the United States and Canada.
I turned to be 30 years old already, but I did not have any serious relationships yet and I even did not think about my private life, family life I mean. It was too difficult to me to find a girlfriend and to start some relationships with her. I was alone, because I was traveling here and there but I was rather happy with all those occasional meetings and that so called friends. The only girl I loved was in my native town, married and had two children already. So I was alone and it was getting boring more and more.
A few years ago I bought a laptop and started communicating with people through the internet. After those years without any attachments to anybody that was like a holiday – I was needed and I do not have to be serious at the same time, just that I wanted. Two years ago I found FSU dating site called luckylovers and I`ve registered myself there. Here I broke my limits because before I was communicating with “our” women on local sites, so here I found a lot of good friends from FSU countries. A lot of pretty women were interested in me and I liked them more and more.
I could not explain it very well, but I felt the difference, I mean the attitude to me and to the world was different. At first I thought this was because of the language difference, but nope, all was different, i mean they were generally more sincere or what… even now after founding the love of my life I could not say it for sure…but it was all so new.
Then I found Ira here, actually she found me there; she was the first who contacted me. Ira was 35-year old gorgeous woman from Georgia, one of the FSU countries. It was rather difficult for me to imagine where exactly Georgia in the former Soviet Union territory was at that time (now it is more known after their revolution) but after that all I made my own map of the world where only Georgia and Mexico were figured out and the line connected them through the ocean. Yes, that all was after I visited this beautiful country and not for once to be frank.
Ira was really interesting person. She was pretty and intelligent, serious and sexy at the same time and she was the Lady, the Lady I have never met in both Americas.
But it was not all so great from the very beginning, the problem was that I put my some landscapes instead of my pictures, because I did not have serious intentions and I am a bit overweight as well, so I did not want to be laughed at. So i saw her photo but she did not see mine. You would not believe how hard it was for me to chat and thought that I could lose her because of this. So my first advice to everybody who thinks over net dating – do not lie, never, all hidden become evident just in a while. But I dared and to my wonder my weight was not a problem for her at all, she told that I was more than in the norm and due to her I became much more confident in myself.
My Ira said that I am a very interesting person to communicate with and it was she again who started to speak about real meeting. Money was not a problem to me, but all my previous life was, I started to think about this, I wanted to meet with her, I even felt myself like being in love, but there were so many buts over all this….
But in a while I arrived, I put all my buts aside and came to FSU, to be exact to Georgia and our relationships went to another stage – to the stage of being in love in reality!!! That was the first trip but not the last, I travel to Georgia and I even managed to arrange some business there. Now we are thinking about our opportunities to be together forever and all the time. We have not decided yet where it will be – here in Mexico and there – in Georgia, but it will be soon….because I proposed her this winter and she accept my proposal!!!
Yes, love is everything, it makes you kinder, more confident…yes it makes you fly!!!
Flaco and Ira
Jul 12, 2009
Russian woman wins her own daughter in Portugal
Natalia Zarubina, Russian woman, managed to return her daughter from a Portuguese couple in a court case. Alexandra, a 6-year old girl, who became the center of a long dispute, was delivered to her mother on May 18. Oleg Sotnikov, the vice-consul of Russia, was present at the delivery procedure.
Natalia and Alexandra were taken to the Russian Embassy in Portugal and on Wednesday they are going to come back home to Russia.
This legal case started in June of 2007. A court of the town of Barcelos originally ordered to leave the child with the Portuguese foster parents.
Later the girl’s mother managed to persuade the court to take her side. Appeals by the Portuguese foster parents reached the constitutional court but were rejected.
Now nothing prevents Natalia Zarubins and her daughter from returning home, ITAR-TASS reports.
Alexandra has never been to Russia before and this will be her first acquaintance with the country Russia. She was born in Portugal in April, 2003. Her mother, Natalia, was in the state of civil marriage with Georgi Tsiklauri, a citizen of Ukraine, and both of them resided in Portugal. Soon the couple broke up and Natalia had to rent an apartment in Braga living from hand to mouth.
Natalia’s Portuguese friends, Joao Pinheiro and Florinda Vieira from the small town of Barcelos located 30 km from Braga, were helping Natalia looking after her daughter while she was away working.
In May of 2007 the Portuguese authorities found out that Natalia had been living in Portugal illegally and decided to deport the woman and her daughter from the country.
Joao and Florinda demanded the girl should be left with them and filed a suit against Natalia. The Portuguese court was on their side. The court’s verdict was treated in Portugal as a shock. Mass media quoted statements by Joao and Florinda who said that Alexandra would have to face an absolutely different life in Russia.
Meanwhile, Natalia Zarubina’s daughter has a grandfather and a grandmother who own a two-storied house in the Yaroslavl region.
"They are waiting for us and will meet us at the airport. I miss them so much too and I always wanted to return home, but thought that I would manage to make money here,” Natalia says.
Natalia and Alexandra were taken to the Russian Embassy in Portugal and on Wednesday they are going to come back home to Russia.
This legal case started in June of 2007. A court of the town of Barcelos originally ordered to leave the child with the Portuguese foster parents.
Later the girl’s mother managed to persuade the court to take her side. Appeals by the Portuguese foster parents reached the constitutional court but were rejected.
Now nothing prevents Natalia Zarubins and her daughter from returning home, ITAR-TASS reports.
Alexandra has never been to Russia before and this will be her first acquaintance with the country Russia. She was born in Portugal in April, 2003. Her mother, Natalia, was in the state of civil marriage with Georgi Tsiklauri, a citizen of Ukraine, and both of them resided in Portugal. Soon the couple broke up and Natalia had to rent an apartment in Braga living from hand to mouth.
Natalia’s Portuguese friends, Joao Pinheiro and Florinda Vieira from the small town of Barcelos located 30 km from Braga, were helping Natalia looking after her daughter while she was away working.
In May of 2007 the Portuguese authorities found out that Natalia had been living in Portugal illegally and decided to deport the woman and her daughter from the country.
Joao and Florinda demanded the girl should be left with them and filed a suit against Natalia. The Portuguese court was on their side. The court’s verdict was treated in Portugal as a shock. Mass media quoted statements by Joao and Florinda who said that Alexandra would have to face an absolutely different life in Russia.
Meanwhile, Natalia Zarubina’s daughter has a grandfather and a grandmother who own a two-storied house in the Yaroslavl region.
"They are waiting for us and will meet us at the airport. I miss them so much too and I always wanted to return home, but thought that I would manage to make money here,” Natalia says.
Jul 6, 2009
Russia and USA
Russia and USA in 2007
The Russia - USA presidential meeting will take place on April 6th in the city of Sochi, on the Black Sea coast of Russia, after the NATO Summit and after George Bush̢۪s visit to Croatia. This story just keeps lingering on and on.
President Bush pointed out only one issue which he said he would discuss with Putin in April … the deployment of the US missile defense system in Europe.
George Bush declined to comment on what he thinks democracy will be like in Russia under Medvedev, Putin’s hand-picked successor.
The United States and Russia have been deadlocked on missile defense in Europe for many months and we see no quick solution, with the US defense secretary saying the US has gone as far as it can to make Russia happy.
US Defense Secretary Robert Gates’ comments came after Moscow rejected US concessions on its plans for missile interceptors in Poland and a radar in the Czech Republic.
“I guess my view is I think we’ve leaned about as far forward as we can. We’ve offered a lot. And my view is, now I want to see some movement on their part,” Gates told reporters as he flew back from Europe today.
Robert Gates said the USA proposals “represent a very forward-leaning posture in terms of partnering with the Russians.”
“And I think the question is whether the Russians are serious about partnering with us, or whether this is merely a pose to try and stop us from going forward with the Czech Republic and Poland,” he said.
Earlier today Russian Defense Minister Viktor Serdyukov said the US proposals were not enough to satisfy the Russian concerns.
“All that has been proposed to us does not satisfy us, our position remains the same,” the ITAR-TASS and Interfax news agency quoted Serdyukov as saying at a meeting of NATO defense ministers in the Netherlands.
The tougher position by Gates came amid rising US tensions with Iran and a warning by President Bush on Wednesday that missile defenses were urgently needed to defend Europe.
“The need for missile defense in Europe is real, and I believe it is urgent,” Bush said, in a speech at the National Defense University that was interpreted as being at odds with Gates’ softer approach to the Russians.
During a visit to Moscow earlier this month, Gates and Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice presented the Russians with ideas for a regional missile defense scheme that would include Russia as well as NATO.
They proposed posting Russian liaison officers at US missile defense sites as well as at the radar site in the Czech Republic if Prague agreed. The Czech leader said: “No comment” when asked if it would be okay to have Russian soldiers in the Czech Republic. There are old tensions between Russia and the Czech Republic.
Gates stated during a trip to Prague, the United States would delay making the European site fully operational until there was “definitive proof of the threat.”
He said Russian leaders have made clear that they recognize that Iran poses a security threat, but differ with Washington on how long it will take the Iranians to develop progressively longer range missiles. Russian thinks this time period is much longer than the the US does.
A US defense official, said the US had offered to tie the activation of the system to a agreed upon understanding with the Russians of what would constitute a proven and real Iranian threat.
“What we are saying is we’re prepared to sit down with Russia and discuss what we would both regard as indications of increasing capability” of Iran’s missiles, the official said.
Gates and US defense officials have said Russian President Vladimir Putin was intrigued enough by the proposals to agree to experts meetings and a follow-on round of talks at the level of defense and foreign ministers.
Russia is concerned about the possibility that the missile defense system could be used against Russia at some point in the future.
The United States, which is still negotiating with Poland and the Czech Republic for access to their territory, insists that the planned missile defense system is no match for Russia’s nuclear arsenal and are aimed at a looming Iranian missile threat. This is a difficult concern for Russia to accept and agree to.
The Russia - USA presidential meeting will take place on April 6th in the city of Sochi, on the Black Sea coast of Russia, after the NATO Summit and after George Bush̢۪s visit to Croatia. This story just keeps lingering on and on.
President Bush pointed out only one issue which he said he would discuss with Putin in April … the deployment of the US missile defense system in Europe.
George Bush declined to comment on what he thinks democracy will be like in Russia under Medvedev, Putin’s hand-picked successor.
The United States and Russia have been deadlocked on missile defense in Europe for many months and we see no quick solution, with the US defense secretary saying the US has gone as far as it can to make Russia happy.
US Defense Secretary Robert Gates’ comments came after Moscow rejected US concessions on its plans for missile interceptors in Poland and a radar in the Czech Republic.
“I guess my view is I think we’ve leaned about as far forward as we can. We’ve offered a lot. And my view is, now I want to see some movement on their part,” Gates told reporters as he flew back from Europe today.
Robert Gates said the USA proposals “represent a very forward-leaning posture in terms of partnering with the Russians.”
“And I think the question is whether the Russians are serious about partnering with us, or whether this is merely a pose to try and stop us from going forward with the Czech Republic and Poland,” he said.
Earlier today Russian Defense Minister Viktor Serdyukov said the US proposals were not enough to satisfy the Russian concerns.
“All that has been proposed to us does not satisfy us, our position remains the same,” the ITAR-TASS and Interfax news agency quoted Serdyukov as saying at a meeting of NATO defense ministers in the Netherlands.
The tougher position by Gates came amid rising US tensions with Iran and a warning by President Bush on Wednesday that missile defenses were urgently needed to defend Europe.
“The need for missile defense in Europe is real, and I believe it is urgent,” Bush said, in a speech at the National Defense University that was interpreted as being at odds with Gates’ softer approach to the Russians.
During a visit to Moscow earlier this month, Gates and Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice presented the Russians with ideas for a regional missile defense scheme that would include Russia as well as NATO.
They proposed posting Russian liaison officers at US missile defense sites as well as at the radar site in the Czech Republic if Prague agreed. The Czech leader said: “No comment” when asked if it would be okay to have Russian soldiers in the Czech Republic. There are old tensions between Russia and the Czech Republic.
Gates stated during a trip to Prague, the United States would delay making the European site fully operational until there was “definitive proof of the threat.”
He said Russian leaders have made clear that they recognize that Iran poses a security threat, but differ with Washington on how long it will take the Iranians to develop progressively longer range missiles. Russian thinks this time period is much longer than the the US does.
A US defense official, said the US had offered to tie the activation of the system to a agreed upon understanding with the Russians of what would constitute a proven and real Iranian threat.
“What we are saying is we’re prepared to sit down with Russia and discuss what we would both regard as indications of increasing capability” of Iran’s missiles, the official said.
Gates and US defense officials have said Russian President Vladimir Putin was intrigued enough by the proposals to agree to experts meetings and a follow-on round of talks at the level of defense and foreign ministers.
Russia is concerned about the possibility that the missile defense system could be used against Russia at some point in the future.
The United States, which is still negotiating with Poland and the Czech Republic for access to their territory, insists that the planned missile defense system is no match for Russia’s nuclear arsenal and are aimed at a looming Iranian missile threat. This is a difficult concern for Russia to accept and agree to.
Jul 3, 2009
Russian Woman found in Italy
A Russian woman was found dead on a wayside of highway near the town of Ravenna, Italy.
At first, the Italian police suggested that the woman was a victim of a car accident, but further investigation showed that she was murdered. A 40-year-old citizen of Italy was arrested on Sunday on suspicion of killing the Russian woman, the RIA-Novosti news agency reports.
According to investigators, they suggest that the suspect, who was a fiance of the killed woman, killed his bride after a heated argument. Detectives say that the woman died of a cerebral wound after a blow to the head. The reasons behind the dispute between the Italian and his bride are uncertain.
Similar incidents were reported earlier. One of the grizzliest examples is the 2004 murder case in Australia where a man from Sydney killed his Russian wife by beating her to death with a shoe. The man has got a 16-year prison sentence for his crime.
At first, the Italian police suggested that the woman was a victim of a car accident, but further investigation showed that she was murdered. A 40-year-old citizen of Italy was arrested on Sunday on suspicion of killing the Russian woman, the RIA-Novosti news agency reports.
According to investigators, they suggest that the suspect, who was a fiance of the killed woman, killed his bride after a heated argument. Detectives say that the woman died of a cerebral wound after a blow to the head. The reasons behind the dispute between the Italian and his bride are uncertain.
Similar incidents were reported earlier. One of the grizzliest examples is the 2004 murder case in Australia where a man from Sydney killed his Russian wife by beating her to death with a shoe. The man has got a 16-year prison sentence for his crime.
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